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Old 03-09-10, 03:04 PM
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Haha, it's funny to read this from a year ago.

That said, I'm planning on being back in Dallas starting midsummer, probably for several years as opposed to several months.

See you guys around.
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Old 03-09-10, 04:17 PM
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welcome laz,

I am all about uptown and live across the tollway from highland park, I will def see you around
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Old 03-09-10, 05:55 PM
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Haha welcome back! Hopefully by the time you're in Dallas I'd be much improved, but so far, not so much....


See you when you move back...!!
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Old 03-09-10, 06:17 PM
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Haha welcome back! Hopefully by the time you're in Dallas I'd be much improved, but so far, not so much....


See you when you move back...!!
This attitude is what's holding you back.
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Old 03-11-10, 05:14 PM
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This attitude is what's holding you back.
What do you mean here, if you don't mind me asking? Curious to know what attitude you have.

I have the attitude that I need A LOT of improvement and there is evidence for this. Should I just start believing and acting like I'm a total PUA? I feel that I have it in me but I'm still learning to get it out.

Currently I switching from acting too cocky to being more humbled and more 'liberal' to see if I get better results. Life can be so messy sometimes.
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Old 03-11-10, 08:33 PM
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What do you mean here, if you don't mind me asking? Curious to know what attitude you have.

I have the attitude that I need A LOT of improvement and there is evidence for this. Should I just start believing and acting like I'm a total PUA? I feel that I have it in me but I'm still learning to get it out.

Currently I switching from acting too cocky to being more humbled and more 'liberal' to see if I get better results. Life can be so messy sometimes.
I was referring to what Prodigy replied with, bud. No need to be on the defensive.
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Old 03-12-10, 09:46 AM
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What do you mean here, if you don't mind me asking? Curious to know what attitude you have.

I have the attitude that I need A LOT of improvement and there is evidence for this. Should I just start believing and acting like I'm a total PUA? I feel that I have it in me but I'm still learning to get it out.

Currently I switching from acting too cocky to being more humbled and more 'liberal' to see if I get better results. Life can be so messy sometimes.

Smirks was just addressing whatever limiting beliefs that Prodigy possesses. I don't know specificially what those LB's are, but based on Prodigy's post you tell there's something there.

Yes, you should believe that you're a total PUA...but, if you're not a total PUA then you're still not going to act like one. Still though, you should believe that you are and as you succeed, or fail, retain those things that make you successfuly and try to identify those things that result in failure.

You can never be too cocky as long as you cut it with levity. The way I've always acted, which works for me, is to be cocky AND funny when I'm talking to girls about everything save for my accomplishments. When it's time to talk about what I do and what I've done (i.e. job, income level, where you live, education level, etc.) I begin using a more humble tone on those subjects.
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Old 03-12-10, 01:15 PM
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Smirks was just addressing whatever limiting beliefs that Prodigy possesses. I don't know specificially what those LB's are, but based on Prodigy's post you tell there's something there.

Yes, you should believe that you're a total PUA...but, if you're not a total PUA then you're still not going to act like one. Still though, you should believe that you are and as you succeed, or fail, retain those things that make you successfuly and try to identify those things that result in failure.

You can never be too cocky as long as you cut it with levity. The way I've always acted, which works for me, is to be cocky AND funny when I'm talking to girls about everything save for my accomplishments. When it's time to talk about what I do and what I've done (i.e. job, income level, where you live, education level, etc.) I begin using a more humble tone on those subjects.
Thanks Bull Run, that's the answer I was looking for.


I was not trying to sound defensive Smirks. I just felt I could relate with what you pointed out.
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Old 03-13-10, 07:29 PM
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I was not trying to sound defensive Smirks. I just felt I could relate with what you pointed out.
Not to pick on you, Budguy, but that's a defensive statement.

Since we're here to improve, I'll offer some advice which may be helpful, or may be useless. I don't know you, so really who knows.


Consider eliminating "just" from your vocabulary. You don't have to explain yourself to anybody.

Also, consider eliminating "if you don't mind me asking..." You don't need permission to ask a question, just ask it.


I'm assuming a lot here, but based on the language you use, you seem like a nice guy to me. Doesn't step on a lot of toes. Now some people will tell you that you can't be a nice guy and succeed at this business of pickup. You've gotta be a "bad boy." Well that's a load of horse shit. But you do need to be assertive, which means at a minimum standing up for your damn rights, and talking/acting like you believe you have some damn rights.

And you, sir, have the bloody right to ask questions, and not explain yourself.
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Old 03-15-10, 03:30 PM
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Not to pick on you, Budguy, but that's a defensive statement.

Since we're here to improve, I'll offer some advice which may be helpful, or may be useless. I don't know you, so really who knows.


Consider eliminating "just" from your vocabulary. You don't have to explain yourself to anybody.

Also, consider eliminating "if you don't mind me asking..." You don't need permission to ask a question, just ask it.


I'm assuming a lot here, but based on the language you use, you seem like a nice guy to me. Doesn't step on a lot of toes. Now some people will tell you that you can't be a nice guy and succeed at this business of pickup. You've gotta be a "bad boy." Well that's a load of horse shit. But you do need to be assertive, which means at a minimum standing up for your damn rights, and talking/acting like you believe you have some damn rights.

And you, sir, have the bloody right to ask questions, and not explain yourself.
You're advice is right in this case man. I now understand where you guys are coming from. You gave me a lot to think about believe it or not.

Even though I sometimes feel like a noob lol here I don't take anything personal.

Assertive sounds like a dame good idea.

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